Have Your Share Of Honey.....

The ugly face of a beautiful heart!

2011-05-29T23:21:00.000-07:00

I would like to begin talking about the meaning of real beauty with the following few lines which comes from my little experience in life.

The outer beauty stays only till you are young and stales as you grow old but the inner beauty grows with age and remains in this world by your name even after death.

What is the one thing that strikes you first when you come across the word BEAUTY?

Is it the beauty of the nature or the beauty of a woman or the beauty of a positive soul or the beauty of this world or the beauty of the life or the beauty of the man made wonders?

The percentage of people voting to have imagined a woman on hearing the word beauty out-stands everything else! Women are always associated with beauty from centuries. Be it the queen Cleopatra or the painting Monalisa, women rule the world with their beauty.

Though women are the first ones to be looked at for beauty assets, men don't lag far behind. The sculpture David or the symbol of male beauty Saint-Sebastian, are considered to be the beauty icons and explains how a typical male needs to be structured.

While I am talking about these male and female beauty ambassadors, I am talking about the beauty that is visible to the eyes. Everybody crave to meet all the essential beauty metrics that can be seen in these cases. But, only a handful of people on this planet are blessed with natural beauty.

So then what the other people do to achieve the perfection?

As the time changes the trends and fashion also change. And people do anything and everything to look beautiful and happening. The smooth and utra-soft glazed skin, the fair and toned face, the artistically colored and curved nails, the straight-silky-highlighted hair, at-least a tattoo with a body piercing, westernized clothes, a few gadgets hanging on neck-waist, and so many things that I am not even aware off are in-in-in! All these because everybody wants to look more beautiful than what they are. And I guess there is nothing wrong in doing it, after all everybody has the right to look and feel beautiful.

Having said this... the real beauty to me is way different...

For me the real beauty is not the dress but the way it is being carried, not the makeup but the charm on the face, not the accessories but the elegance, not the style but the attitude, not the language but the tone, not the person but the personality and not the complexion but the glow.

For me the real beauty is in the eyes which have the spark of empathy and not the eyes with false lashes or the smudged kajal. The beauty is not in the stylish body language of a young woman but rather in the caring gesture of a old woman.

Beauty is not in the toned zero figure celebrity but it's in the starving skeleton figured poor lady who has given up her meals for the family. The real beauty is on the face of our solider who has given up his fair complexion for the country struggling hard at times under sun and not in the hot macho man who has tanned his body artificially.

Talking about myself... I never ever felt so beautiful as I do now after the birth of my son. I used to enjoy loads of compliments during my college days about my complexion and how beautiful I looked even without any makeup. But I never realized what it was because I hated my pimply face a lot.

As I am growing old leaving behind 20's and growing close to 30's, I realize the fact that outer beauty is just a matter of time and fades to ashes with age.

And now, I look beautiful not in the mirror but when I look at myself in my son's eyes. When I run behind him I get the feeling of a super-fast energetic athlete even as I struggle being over weight. My skin feels so smooth when he touches my cheeks with love no matter I care the least about it. I feel my hair has become strong and silky when he insists on combing them though it's the most affected beauty assets in the long run.

I feel like a Princes when he chooses which dress I need to wear. Just a kiss from him makes me feel like I am the most loved one in this world. I feel like my body is getting toned when I hop and play with him.

While I am with my son it's like I am the most beautiful woman on this earth inside-out.

Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it. What one can see around him is a matter of reflection of one-self. That is the reason it's always said beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart. -- Kahlil Gibran

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I am not done with my holidays yet?

2011-05-19T04:37:00.000-07:00

I know you guys must be thinking like...I am not done with my holidays yet?

Actually it's not that I am on holiday spree at the moment and enjoying my life like heavens away from blog! I am really missing my blog like I have been away from my loved one...

Recently we moved from USA to India and still getting used to life back home after the relocation.

The shopping and hopping with two year old son is on...

The inviting and visiting relatives is on...

The setting and settling home is on...

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Once the things get back to the state called off in life probably my blog will turn on! With a hope to post again soon... till then keep up with life in positive attitude.

Japan- What do you see here?

2011-03-15T13:39:00.000-07:00

Japan, the land to look for inspiration.

Japanese, people who move on!

The most strongest, the most determined, the most dedicated and the most ambitious people in the world are the Japanese! They are the best example of

bringing the phrase 'the show must go on' to practice.

They were ruined and yet they stood up tall.

The country was devastated during World War II in 1945 when the atomic bombs were dropped on Hiroshima and Nagasaki. Do we exactly understand the difference between a bomb and a atom bomb? Well, I would like to tell it in one line and that is, if a bomb is a poison that can kill people in seconds then a atom bomb is a slow poison that can kill generations of people for centuries!

Any country would have easily given up in such a situation but not the Japanese. They build their Nation with all might and stood up to challenge the world. And now they are ahead of so called developed Nations in almost all the aspects.

Time to time they have been put on challenges from other countries and nature. What the people of Japan have to say is nothing but -accept and win the challenge. One such routine in Japan is fighting earthquake. Till date people come together with unity and battle the calamities.

The newest and the worst crisis in Japan after world war II is the massive earthquake of 8.9/9 magnitude in pacific ocean which caused tsunami. The more I talk about this natural calamity the lesser I will be speaking. Only the people who underwent the incident can talk about the impact. But, what I want to tell is 'I know they will do it again'. They will prove that they are capable of coping with anything that looks impossible to the world. They can build the Nation again.

I know its too less I am doing but I really want to pray to God to help them because they are willing to help themselves.

The after effect of tsunami is not just in Japan but it has shown it's impact globally. The world market is hit and the world economy is facing the effect. Companies like Canon, Casio, Mitsubishi, Toyota, are just a few to name who plays eminent role in the world economy. This shows the share of contribution Japan makes and prove that they are one among world leaders.

Being such a small country, it's watched by the world, it's followed by the world, it's admired and appreciated by the world.

Pray for Japan.

EARTH- Why don't we love it?

2011-03-10T12:38:00.000-08:00

Instead of discussing about the blahs I and you do as part of our daily routine and how we tend to waste resources in our day-to-day life I would like to kick start on what can be done to curb the wastage. Or still better rather than advising people what to do, let me tell you what I have done and what I wished I could do (and if you feel you can adopt these things in your life then I would really not mind plagiarism upon acting on this post!).

I live on earth and I love it.

I want it to be the same for my son to grow and live happily.

Here are a few things that I have already started doing and a few things I plan to do.

My big three mistakes!

Right now I stay in USA and it's really easy for anybody here to go ga-ga over use and throw stuffs since there is no domestic help available.

I did fall in pray to the plastic for some time and used plastic utensils (cups, plates, spoons....) during parties at my place only to avoid and save myself from washing a large number of dishes at the end of the party.
For a couple of months now we have been sleeping at night with lights on since my son was having night terrors.
I have been using a lot of tap hot water (I was unaware for many days that the water gets heated using gas) which is readily available anytime in USA since it is winter here in Newyork and it's freezing cold all the time.

How I corrected my-self?

I started using more of reusable dishes even during get together at my home. I asked my two close friends to help me with the cores after the party and they were happy to give a helping hand. And I do offer them the same kind of help when a party ends at their home. It's all mutual understanding now! In unavoidable situation I try to replace plastic with paper (which I know is not good for trees either but will try and find some solution for it as well).
Touch wood, my son has no more night terrors, it was a phase in his life and has thank fully ended. And even the pediatrician advised us not to worry and lights have nothing to do with it. Now we no more keep the lights on during nights.
I thought hot water would be a better option when it comes to washing dishes in freezing temperature! But, once I was aware of the fact that the water is heated using the gas I drastically reduced using hot water to save gas (plus my hubby's pocket... the gas bill!). Instead, I now wash in normal water and also save my hands from running out of moisture due to excess hot water all the time.

What else I wished I could do?

- Water first. I don't see the problem of water much here in USA. But in India it's a major issue. As the summer has started I have already started hearing about water scarcity from my family. My maid back in India used gallons of water even for a tiniest of the tiniest job she did.

Once I am back to Bangalore I will strictly warn her to use water as if it was not flowing from the tap but she had brought it all the way from ground floor to fourth floor!

- Taking the car daily to office which carries not more than one person does not make sense. I know using public transport comes in with it's own problems but should be used more where ever possible. One of the best option is maximum usage of bi-cycles to cover short distance.

This will reduce fuel consumption, pollution, helps reduce green house gases and also reduces the growing traffic.

- Cleanliness is important but not just at home but also the surroundings. Even the so called educated people do not bother much to keep the roads, foot paths, parks, public places,.... clean. Most of us are carefree and think we are too busy to take notice of dustbins outside our homes.

Try to breath fresh and this can happen only if the world outside your home is also clean!

- A few other important simple yet effective things include switching off lights when not necessary, conducting workshops in villages to bring awareness about saving resources, encouraging school and college projects based on effective resource management, imposing laws to encourage limited usage of non-biodegradable sources (e.g plastic, some chemicals,...), a municipality initiation in collecting domestic waste on weekly bases, ..........

My part in spreading the word on-line and off-line!

What have I done virtually to spread a word about EARTHHOUR? (And you can follow the links to have a glance of proof).

I have changed my twitter profile (@Pinky_bn) background to earth hour background which you can find here. This I did to grab the attention of my profile visitors (followers) and take a notice of details right away.
I have taken a pledge to tweet at-least 5 times a day about earth hour (I am not a tweet-o-holic to promise 100s of tweets a day but the number of tweets may shoot up like a rocket!)
I have mailed all the details of earth hour including the earth hour website to all my real life friends ( I am sorry for not giving the proof since I cannot copy the mail here disclosing mail-ids...a chance to boost the spam business!).
I am following earth hour India on twitter and I have liked their facebook page to keep myself updated and pass on the same to others.
I have changed profile picture of my Facebook fan page have your share of honey and I have planned to update my status with a thought tinkling line on earth hour and invite my fans (hardly any number on my fan page but I will do it!) to throw out some suggestions and opinions. This I will do soon after I publish this post on my blog.
I have also added a logo and linked it to earth hour site so that I can do my bit on spreading this initiation. Needless to say(!) you can see it on the right side here on my blog.
Well, if I think of more promotion from my side I will definitely do more of it.

One last major thing I will do on a daily bases in years to come.

I ask my son who is just 19 months old not to play in water which he is really found off. It's not all that easy as it sounds. He makes me go crazy every time I am near the water. He will open the tap and enjoy after splashing water on the floor, getting wet himself and making my clothes drenched in water. It's just an innocent playful act for him though I make it a point to stop him and not to encourage him.

Right now there is nothing much I can do but in years to come I will for sure guide my son to lead his life as a responsible human, as a responsible citizen and as a responsible man. Because, after all today's kids are tomorrow's future.

FemInspiration- Brave-llectual KC!

2011-03-04T11:49:00.000-08:00

February 1, 2003 was a black day for the whole world. It was the end of seven geniuses who were the super power faculties on earth. India in particular mourned this day on loosing her proud daughter called KC.

A gorgeous lady was conceived in 1975 in California. She was born in 1981 and named after Boston based Sloop-Columbia as Columbia. She went on growing stronger and stronger with every test she passed and achieved huge success. The missions she accomplished were STS-1 to STS-107. She was none other than the famous Space Shuttle Columbia. During her last mission i.e STS-107, she happened to carry a crew of seven who were the best among the living! Five of the crew members were male David Brown, Rick Husband, Ilan Ramon , Michael Anderson, Willie McCool and two were females Kalpana Chawla and Laurel Clark.

Among the two brave ladies Kalpana Chawla is the one whom Indians are proud of. She not only dreamed big and impossible but also fulfilled it. She aimed to fly and she did.

Kalpana's profile:

DOB- July 1, 1961

Place- Karnal, Haryana, India

Occupation- Astronaut, NASA

Kalpana was the first Indian woman and the second person of Indian origin to fly in the space. Breaking all the taboos of the Indian Society against the so called weaker sex, she went on par and climbed the ladder of success graduating in B.E in aeronautical engineering. Who could dare stop her from flying in the sky? Her tremendous intellectual capability with the combination of bravery made her the Brave-llectual KC!

Just a engineering degree was not all that she was aiming for. She future moved to USA and obtained a M.S. degree in aerospace engineering. This was not all. She earned a second M.S. degree in 1986 and a Ph.D. in aerospace engineering. Then she joined NASA and her career took off and landed as an astronaut. Apart from this she had the ability to fly varieties of planes. Kalpana Chawla was called as KC by her friends.

She had the aim which was stars away for others. She was aiming to reach the height were even a man could not imagine to reach. She had the ability to flee people with a commercial pilot's license at hand. KC dreamt to explore the unexplored and gave the hope to woman to dream. She achieved the unachievable and inspired woman to chase their dreams. She not only proved her intellectual capabilities but also proved her physical abilities to cope with the challenges by staying in the space for more than 30 days. She mis-proved that women were physically weak.

It was not just the achievement of KC but also an achievement for her parents and in particular her mother. It was the achievement of womanhood. Surviving all the odds in eighties especially in India for a woman is a achievement in itself. Her mother would have faced challenges at every stage and yet she believed in her daughter and her dreams. Sustaining all the pressure from the society and relatives her mother(would have) pushed her daughter to reach the stars. KC's mother must be really proud of her unbelievable daughter. And KC had all the reason to thank her mother who stood behind the scene and encouraged her to move on.

KC was born ready to fly. Unfortunate we are to loose such a brave soul. February 1, 2003 on her way back to earth after completing her second mission successfully, Columbia had a disastrous end. All the seven crew members lost their lives and become one among the stars and they still continue to twinkle in our minds. Kalpana, though departed now, will always be an inspiration to the feminity. She will always be the dream of a Indian woman. She will always be the hope, the courage, the intellect, the role model and the symbol of woman power.

March 8, 2011 is the day when we all are celebrating 100th women's international day. At the same time on February 1, 2011 it was the eighth death anniversary of KC. This is a tribute to Kalpana Chawla who remains in every heart on this earth for ever.

My feminspiration is KC and her life is worth admiring. She was the example of what is said as- "impossible is nothing as the word itself says I (a)m possible".

He was not a doctor!

2011-02-28T12:08:00.000-08:00

Santrupthi, a beautiful and sensitive nineteen year old girl. She was my friend in the neighbourhood. As against her name which means ultimate satisfaction she was the most unsatisfied girl I have ever met. She was the only child of a working couple. She always had the complaint against her parents for her loneliness.

It was our summer vacation and the sun was beating us. We both were on our way back home after looting the market in the name of shopping. Suddenly I heard Santrupthi scream at the top of her voice struggling to put her right foot forward. As we were just a few steps away from her home, I managed to take her home.

I asked her what was wrong as I was trying to sooth her offering a glass of water. She did not utter a word. Mean while her parents were back home. I told them the story and left home as it was pretty late in the night. Next day she showed me a wound at her ankle. It was not that big a wound. I was wondering on the reason for her scream!

A couple of days later when I met Santrupthi, she really had a bad walk. I saw the wound and it was just not the same. We both went to the Doctor and looking at the condition of the wound he prescribed some tablets and a ointment. Days passed and the wound was getting worse as if the medications were meant to aggravate the situation. We thought of taking a second opinion and visited another doctor. He examined the wound and looked at the prescription and said it was still good to continue the same medicines.

The wound went on getting deeper and deeper with time. Two weeks later she was referred to consult Dr.Gurumurthy a psychiatrist? According to him the prescription was just perfect. He asked me to go out of examination room for some time. After thirty five minutes when I was asked to walk in I saw Santrupthi crying. The doctor asked me to get her parents.

Listening to the whole story her still unaware parents told they were too busy to visit the doctor. However her mother told me she would try and see the doctor next week. Her wound was the same and the medications had seized their process.

The day finally came when her otherwise busy mother could manage to see the doctor. On my next visit to Santrupthi’s house I was overwhelmed to listen to her mother. The fact was so much unexpected. It was not just any wound but something made big by her-self! She was harming herself just to gain her parents love and attention. Loneliness from childhood to her adolescence had haunted her mind. She thought her pity condition would force her parents to take care of her and spare some time to her.

Yes, Dr. Gurumurthy was suspecting the beginning of a mental illness in Santrupthi. But, the good news was that she had not yet stepped into any kind of psychological disorder and can completely be treated. Frequent meet-ups with the Dr. Gurumurthy finally opened up her parents’ heart to accommodate their daughter into their schedule.

Dr. Gurumurthy proved to be more than a doctor and had developed a bond with Santrupthi and her parents. He was not just another doctor studying her psychology and treating her. He was a true companion offering her the food for her mind. His compassion was her medicine. His love was a treasure to her. The doctor is now like her best friend and he has been given all the rights to intervene in her life and her parents’ decision.

No doubt the pharmacist succeeded in curing her external wound but only Dr. Gurumurthy was able to heal her. He has done the duty of her parents who were out of the scene busy with their work for nineteen long years. He was not a doctor but an angel!

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Are you carrying guilt on shoulder mommy?

2011-02-24T22:16:00.000-08:00

I invite the following three of my blogger friends to participate in the contest. Please click on the image to get more information on the same.

My World – My Perception
A Life
Look Ahead..

The constitution has granted rights to women to work and earn a living. The society has waved the green flag and said it's now your time, go ahead and show the power of woman. The family said, if you can really manage your work and family alike then, why not? Husband whispered it's your life honey live it on your own terms. And children, oh they are too young to say anything regarding the matter of their Mom working.

Life of a woman has evolved and undergone so many changes. In every stage of evolution one theory that was proved right again and again is 'Charles Darwin's theory of Survival of the fittest'. No matter how liberal the rules on the paper are towards women the practical difficulties are always dominant. Apart from battling with the world outside her body, a woman constantly tries to win the war within herself. The two greatest enemies within her body are the biological processes of femininity and the feminine psychological complexity. The woman is all ready and trying hard to win over these two enemies and the third one arises, the guilt. One woman who survives all these odds and faces challenges with courage will win the battle inside-out.

In the past women were more family centric. They were hardly given the choice between work and home. It was a well defined job for a woman to stay at home and pursue her duties as a manager of domestic work. Gradually as the women started enjoying more freedom, they also chose their life style. Now the scenario is very different from what it used to be once. Women are deciding on their take over life either as a career woman or a stay at home lady.

Taking into account the status of women in India at present, I understand the fact that not all women have this kind of options and freedom. India is a sub-continent of different cultures and classes. Many factors rule and influence the status of a woman. Considering the modern Indian society and the status of modern Indian woman, yes, she is free to choose. Thus, begins the struggle to prove her decision right.

A woman plays a number of roles during her life time. One very important role given by the nature to a woman is being a mother. We all know what it takes to be a good mother. When a woman plays this role as a mother, her life gets a different meaning. Between, a mother has two important choices in life. One being- get back to work and the second one being- a stay at home mom.

Once a woman makes a decision to board the flight of a career she feels guilty of not having enough time to her family. The more she works and pulls herself up in the career the more she experiences the loss of quality time at home. She starts getting attached to the idea of growing self-sufficient financially and it becomes an obsession holding her back from compromising in the career. A stage in her life arises where she starts feeling guilty of committing a crime against her family by not nurturing the relationships.

Above all if the woman is also a mom then it's just like icing on the cake for a diabetic! With a very little spare time to dedicate to the child(ern) she feels like she is the most selfish mom anybody could ever have. She holds herself responsible for everything that goes wrong in her young-one's life. And people around her always find an opportunity and keep telling her on how she is missing some lovely moments of life being away from home all day.

She is anyway not going to give up the job as the decision she made to get back to work will be a failure. And also that if she has decided to earn her bit then there are a number of reasons supporting her decision. The family financial conditions, her own aspirations or even the push from her partner! Apart from managing the daily chores at the house she also needs to manage the mental stress and the feeling called guilt.

On the other side if a woman choose to stay back home and become a happy home maker, she has in store a set of different problems. She enjoys the colors of life in a completely different canvas. She has all the time to paint her home with the smiles of her family. She experiences and enjoys every moment with her kid(s). She is lucky to watch every millimeter of her child(ren) grow.

The stay at home mom works equally as a working mom does with no or very little help from her partner. She can more efficiently manage household work since she does them according to her convenience. But a package of guilt comes in handy with this decision as well. Somewhere deep down she has the frustration of not giving a helping hand financially to the family. She is guilty of not sharing the burden of her partner. She is constantly in guilt of doing nothing but a thankless job of saving her home and relationship. Sometimes she also needs to cope up with the stress of not stepping out of home for several days in a row.

Whatever be a mother's decision, the guilt is here to stay with her. Being a woman in itself brings a lot of burden from the society and family together. This not only makes a woman face challenge in her everyday life but also triggers her emotional clock to go off the balance. Then there is a tempering of motherhood to her already not so good situation making her run around the world to fulfill the goals of a mother.

The bottom line is, be it a career mom or a stay at home mom, every mom is a working mom. And what is important in a mother's life is how much quality time she gives to her family and not the quantity. It's important to share the bond of love and compassion and not just the financial burden. No worries weather she is a money making mom or a home making mom, just needs to give the best and enjoy the motherhood.

Acedia, one of the seven deadly sins is committed by a woman at least once in her life time. This happens while the woman is in the state of war against herself! Life becomes so light and easy once she drops off the sack of guilt from her shoulders. Once she is free of guilt she has even more time for family, work and herself.

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Dissecting LOVE!

2011-02-12T20:45:00.000-08:00

Today on the eve of Valentine's day I would love to share my life and in particular different stages of my life and different forms of love I have experienced.

So, today's topic of discussion is basically LOVE. I am trying to ask myself what is LOVE and this is what I found. Join me as I begin the journey of dissecting love with this cute show, just click the next button every time you are done with the slide.

Dissecting LOVE! on Prezi

In my childhood the only thing that I have seen and felt was immense LOVE of my parents and my sister. They are the best parents I could ever ask for and they still are my greatest guide for life. No matter how much me and my sister fought on all those worthless reasons she continues to be my best friend.

As per the Indian tradition the saga of groom hunting started. My parents were trying to find the perfect handsome for their lovely daughter. The day had finally come when I was hit hard in my heart with the arrow of LOVE by a handsome hunk. He was no less than my dream macho man and was the perfect life partner I had always imagined. I said, I scraped my knee when I fell for you... he said, don't you worry I will be the band aid. All this came to an happy ending when we tied the knot and we begun the new journey of life together. I am now living my dream... four years and happily married.

There was more LOVE in store for me and my destiny probably wanted me to have more happiness in my life. Just like a gem in the crown we are now blessed with the most loveliest son.

With all this in my bag how can I not see my future with

LOVE in the air and me flying high.

I have a almost perfect life and you can make your's perfect as well with

Life is what you make it

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Why house wives should blog... my guest post

2011-02-10T08:13:00.000-08:00

My first ever guest blog post 'Why house wives should blog?' is now live on Machoarts. I am excited and I am in the last band all ready to make reaction!

My sequel to this post will be posted next week here on my blog Have Your Share Of Honey. Let us discuss on managing home and blog. Keep yourself updated on Twitter go to Pinky_bn

So what you have to say about it? What are your reasons to blog?

The wondrous Niagara

2011-02-07T12:06:00.000-08:00

Travel is a great topic of discussion. Who would not love to take a break from daily chaos and routine life? More over sharing the travel experiences will help others plan for the trip. So that is it, I am here to share my life's most amazing trip with you.

It is the.....

Beauty of the nature
Gift to the man kind
Feast to the eyes
Wonder to the brain
Love to the heart
Boon to the soul

This and more was what I felt when I first saw my dream destination 'the majestic NIAGARA'. Beautiful she stood there all dressed in white with that misty water, embroidered with sparkling diamonds of tiny water droplets, decorated with the glamorous white lace of the mist, with a green and brown beads of the rocks below it, wearing a colorful elegant neck piece of the rainbow, holding a blue umbrella of the sky worked with white flowers of clouds and the tiny blue butterflies of ferries with people in blue raincoats were kissing her gown.

The scene was dream-fully wonderful. I always wanted to see the world's widest falls i.e. the Niagara falls. And when the opportunity knocked my door and I am in USA how could I really miss this opportunity. All the purposes on this earth are insufficient to explain why one should actually visit this falls. But for me the purpose was the basic one, to BEHOLD THE BEAUTY OF NATURE. I feel blissfully proud to be one among those on earth who got this chance to see the falls.

I have seen a lot many places in India and USA including my next dream destination Disneyland but what I felt was nature always slaps man with its creations.

It was in September 2010 and it was just the beginning of fall. With a jacket required to protect us from cold most of the times me, my husband and my then just a year old son left for our journey early in the morning. The fall colors outside the window was just to die for. Enjoying the views from the sealed windows of our bus listening to our tour guide and some times to my crying son we finally reached our destination.

Just a couple of miles away from the falls and we were still in the bus the river Niagara showed up. The river was flowing harmoniously to join the buzz of the falls. As I looked up I got the heavenly glimpse of the mist rising up above the sky scrapers as if its daring to meet the clouds.

Our guide handed over our tickets and asked us to be back on time to the bus. We stood above the bridge waiting for our turn near the lift. My eyes were trying to zoom the lens inside to capture the moment on the roll of my memory and my hands were doing the same with the camera. The roaring sound of the falls sang a melodies song in my ears and my heart was dancing to it's tune.

Now was our turn to get down and meet the gorgeous lady Niagara. We dressed into the blue raincoats all ready to get into the 'maid of the mist' who is the ferry and the one who will take us to Niagara. The ferry set right and my son started to cry. Oh, I was now shared between my dream lady and my life my son. I was trying to enjoy my ride in the ferry and my husband trying to console my son. As we approached the Niagara she kissed me with mist and opened her arms to hug me... I was overwhelmed to see water all over. I was in her arms, I can feel her when I touch the mist, on my right I see water, on my left I see water, on the top I see water and down I see water. THIS IS THE HEAVEN. I can not enjoy this all alone and therefore I stopped looking at Niagara who was calling me hard. I took my crying son and said bye to her. It was now my hubby's turn to enjoy the moment.

And after this I have absolutely nothing to tell. I carried the feeling all through my trip and enjoyed the night view when the lady was dressed in her colorful night gown. As she was ready to go to bed I thought it was time for me to stop and get away from her without disturbing her.

February 14th is fast nearing and Valentine's Day is round the corner, I want to tell Niagara...

Why am I not a guy for the simple reason that I would ask you will you be my Valentine!

Facts about Niagara falls

My cleartrip submission

Rose in the bud of thorns...

2011-01-31T12:41:00.000-08:00

Once a soul reforms as a human being it is bound to experience various emotions. Different incidents induce different emotions , different emotions lead to different behavior and in turn different behavior give birth to many more incidents. Many such incidents in my life have forced me to get on and get off the roller-coaster ride of emotions. While some incidents were exiting some other were disturbing. Between two of these categories I recall many other incidents which were confusing and intermediate.

Yes, I am talking about incidents which induced emotions of both the categories. While the same incident made me happy it also made me sad. I know, all of you would have experienced many such incidents. But for me among all those one incident of my life was like a rose in the bud of thorns.

Never in my life before this did I go under knife, never in my life before this did I experience such immense pain, never ever before this my soul screamed and at the same time never before this I had tears in my eyes due to happiness.

It was the day I was long waiting for. My family around me was trying to boost my confidence. I was just outside the doors and my husband was holding me tight. My mom looked anxious. I was missing my father and my sister who were soon to arrive but still hadn't made there appearance. And what about me? My brain had almost stopped thinking. All I was feeling was NULL and VOID! That is because I was experiencing the height of confusion.

Till this point of time, the whole day was like a jigsaw puzzle! The more I tried to solve it the more I messed it. I laughed with tears and I cried with smile. I was the happiest person sometimes and very next moment I was the most saddest being in the world. While I was carefree at some-point of time I would be worried at the other. I thought this is it, I must end it now. But actually I never wanted it to end.

One half of me said: You have been experiencing life in yourself for nine months now and all of a sudden how can you let it live you alone? Then the other half said: You have been waiting for this day don't you want to see your part coming to life?

Amongst all these emotions my body had started reacting in a different way. I wanted to stand but also wanted to sit for rest. If I sit my back hurts and if I stand my center of gravity was lost. I would suddenly get the pain which I thought will take my life. Then when it would stop I thought I am giving birth to a life.

It was nothing but the day of my delivery. I was carrying for nine months now and finally was going to give birth to a baby. The doctors were like God because they were the ones who will help me bring life on this earth. They were also the demons because they were hurting my body.

I was on the operation table since I was undergoing c-section. I was fully conscious since I was given local anesthesia. Though I did not feel pain I felt the cutting sensation psychologically. I don't know if I was weak mentally to handle the feeling of me being operated. I was getting stressed and may be that showed on the blood pressure scale. Since it was not good for me as well as my baby, I was tranquilized. After this started my journey to hell!

I was not in a situation to open my mouth thereafter. But for the first time I was screaming out as loud as possible all to myself. I just wished that somebody would hear me and stop everything that was happening to me at that time but in vain. I was screaming and screaming, please stop it, please get me back to conscious state and I don't believe but I said this... I don't want to give birth to any baby I am fed up just stop it!

I was imaging some caves and haunting voices in there. Those voices were nothing but the conversations of doctors and nurses around me. I was actually experiencing the same thing as a drug addict may experience. I now knew what the addicts mean when they say ' they float in a different world when they take drugs'. I suddenly heard the voice of a baby crying and I knew that I have given birth to a baby. That was the only voice in the cave that sounded like a sweet and melodies lullaby to my hears. I heard somebody saying 'it's a baby boy...look at your baby'. I tried hard to open my eyes to get that first glimpse of my baby but all I could see was a blur image of a round and fair face with no features who was wrapped in a greenish wrap. Getting no reaction from me my baby was taken away and I heard a voice again 'she is too drowsy to see her baby'. These were the last words I heard and I have no idea what happened next as I went to deep sleep.

Tears rolled down my eyes when I saw my baby in my mother's hand. Now when I see my eighteen months old son this is what I say to myself-

The ride of emotional roller-coaster that day was actually not a pain but was a adventure ride of my life which only made me strong to take care of my son. It was nothing but my first step towards the motherhood. Yes, I am now all ready to die and take birth again and again when the reward for it is no less than the only sun in the galaxy and not just another star.

I just cannot stop thanking God for all that he has blessed us in the form of our wonderful son.

The height of mixed emotions in my life till date ended with happiness and love. What is your take on mixed emotion? Its always said sharing boosts joy and heals pain. Why don't you share that one incident in your life that brought mixed emotions in you?

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True faith in God

2011-01-28T10:41:00.000-08:00

“All who call on God in true faith, earnestly from the heart, will certainly be heard, and will receive what they have asked and desired.”

Martin Luther

It was Thursday and I was at Lord Sai Baba's temple at my native place. It was not my first visit to the temple but that day was a little different. As soon as I got the glimpse of Baba I felt a deep longing to visit Shirdi, the divine abode of Baba.

The prior commitments of my family did not permit them to accompany me. Due to the pulsing call from the unknown source I could not hold myself back. I immediately left to Shirdi. Yes, unusual though I was all alone this time.

I finally reached Shirdi and the feeling was like never before. My appetite for the darshan stopped growing when I got the glimpse of the majestic idol of Sai Baba. As I was coming out of the temple I felt like my soul was recharged and it was a new me.

The crowd of devotes pushed me out of the temple involuntarily. I thanked for everything and opened by handbag to offer some money as a donation to the temple. I got the shock of my life, my purse was missing.

I was drowned in the pool of sweat. My nerves denied to carry commands. Still I stood in a corner. A lonely woman standing helplessly in the crowd is not at all a good sign. I being in such a situation did not know whom to trust for help and what to expect next.

Suddenly, I saw a middle aged man walking towards me and I went cold. But as he came closer to me, I felt some connections happening in my mind. He was the man whom my family was long awaiting. Just a glance at him and I could recollect everything. It was almost 10 months that we were in search of this man. He owes some money to my father.

I was left with no option but to trust him. As we walked away from the crowd, I explained him the situation. He offered me money to help me out. I could not say no. He then gave me a sealed envelope and asked me to give it to my father. Before I could realize the situation, the man had disappeared in the crowd.

Regretting for not finding the man again I headed back home. I told the whole story to my family. Everybody at home was thankful to Baba for saving me from all the odds that could have happened. They were also grateful to the man and thought it was Baba in disguise! I handed over the envelope to my father. Everybody was surprised to see money in it. It had the amount the man owed to my father. Finally the man paid his debts. My family was happy to get back the hard earned money.

The very next Thursday I had been to Sai Baba's temple as usual. I met a lady who was one of our family friends after a year or so. We just had a normal conversation. I then started telling her how I felt last week when I visited the temple and my visit to Shirdi. After telling the incident that happened to me at the temple she was shocked. I did not understand what was it. She told me that the man had expired 8 months back. Not just my lips but also my mind was sealed!

What my family thought the man to be Baba in disguise was a truth?

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One latest technology that drive my life!

2010-12-06T11:35:00.000-08:00

PUT YOUR LIFE ON FIRE...NOT TO BURN IT TO ASHES BUT TO BAKE IT TO THE RIGHT CONSISTENCY. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS SIMPLY TOUCH ME!

Says this product from Apple to the world. Apple, I believe is so far the best provider for software devices. Not many companies can compete with its quality, specialty and innovation. And one such latest innovative gadget from the house of Apple is iPad. Connecting the dots has led to the invention of iPad which has incorporated mostly the existing technologies yet is a superb device.

The change that started taking place in my life was just a week ago, the day of thanksgiving, 25 November 2010. And what was so special about that day and what is the connection with Apple? Unlike as it is always said that the sales and Apple never go together, in the history of Apple, for the first time it announced its involvement in black Friday deals. That was it, our long awaited desire to buy an iPad came to life. While me and my husband had decided to buy one in march 2011 we gave it a second thought and agreed upon benefiting our wallet with some discount. The next day i.e. Friday known as black Friday in USA, we went ahead and booked for iPad online.

Next on the story line is 30 November 2010, Tuesday, the day when the door bell rang and I found the device in my hand.

As I had a look at it, I was actually peeping into my future

and my life changing gadget which I was unaware yet.

Its now been quiet sometime that I have been using my hubby's laptop for my technological needs and however handy it claims to be, it still isn't all that convenient and specially when a year old infant is always around me interrupting me trying to indulge and intact with the laptop himself. This is very distracting and most of the times making me quit and discontinue with my work either because he do not allow me or because of the break in the thought process.

And this was the reason that I always wanted something handy and which I could use even in the bathroom effortlessly! iPad provided me with more than I actually wanted. And more because of the awesome technology that in the true sense explained me the meaning of interactive device. When I use it I feel as if the device is listening to me through my fingers and all I have to do is just TOUCH IT!

Yes I am talking about one technology that changed my life and that is

THE TOUCH SCREEN TECHNOLOGY.

I feel like the world is in the tip of my finger and rolls over with just a touch. This technology is not only a great experience to use but it also made me think again on the subject of me jumping into the web and grabbing that one online job which I thought was impossible to manage with my son. Its not much time now that I have got this device but I have already made up my mind to take up online job and do something at home while I don't compromise with my family needs. The process of finding the job that is suitable for me and my knowledge is on in the full swing and hope to join one in just a few weeks to come.

Every time I hold the iPad in my hands, a sense of inspiration triggers and motivates me for what I am doing. And that is because it reminds me of who is behind this astonishing gadget and what took him to achieve this level in his life. The touch technology has finally touched me and my life and is guiding it ahead in the right direction.

Finally, I want you to watch this video and listen to Steve Jobs very carefully. This very video where he narrates his life in the form of three stories is not just inspiring but very motivating too.

I know the man in the video needs no introduction, yet I feel lucky to even take his name in my writing and would not miss this opportunity to honor him with words though I feel short of them. I am a huge fan of Apple products and from the day I got to see this video and listen to this speech, I have turned out to be a huge fan of Apple Guru and that is none other than the Apple company founder Steve Jobs. He is a man of sand to sun and that is explained by him in one of his three stories.

He is lighting the world with the technology that grows and

outrages the scale on the graph.

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About me

2010-11-28T09:58:00.000-08:00

Who me???

My past- I hold a Master of Science degree...
My present- I hold my son in one hand and my hubby dear in another...
My future- Wising for one more hand to hold and support my blog...!!!

Nothing much to explain because am just another bee hoping to become the only Queen in the bee-hive!

For those of you who really wants to know more about me... I can go on and on...check out.

I am more of happy go lucky kind of a person, I get serious at times though and am really serious when I say I am serious, and I want you to take me serious when I say so! Humorous, quick witted, dynamic, intelligent, extrovert, responsible, caring, blah, blah... all these words don't fit my personality. Are you getting some negative vibrations now? Please do not absorb the vibrations... I only want to say that all these are too much to explain what I am and I only need two simple words 'basic person' against the classy vocabulary to introduce me... and I strongly believe in the saying-

'Action speaks louder than words'

And now you get this chance to meet the lighter side of me and know my biography!

Am always on cloud nine!

Either I am day dreaming or

deeply thinking!

I was brought up(thank God not bought up!) by my loving parents.

My Mama!

And my Papa!

(this was the only better picture that I found?)

Guys beware, if you try to offend me you will really hurt me since I was born with a golden spoon (not silver ok!) in my mouth (!) and brought up on a flower bed?

My childhood was full of fun and fights (because I have a sister)

I grew up not doing much fun in life since I studied all the time
(only my parents can tell you the truth!) and hurry,

I finished my Degree and Masters (Do you think I am a real Scholar now?).

Hummm, and my parents thought I should now get married

(okay, was my answer?)

between, I even served for a while as a college lecturer
(God save the students and their future!)

Now the bell in my heart rings and here I find love of my life...

And now I leave in my hubby's heart...

(I have the license to think my mind!)

Empty mind devil's workshop! I started my first blog...

And, I did not do it seriously!

Now, we are a happy family, and blessed with a baby boy.

Isn't he cute like an angel... (of course am talking about the baby in the picture, I found it on net!)

My other hobbies in life are:

Painting

If only I could post some of my art works here... but will do that once I am back to INDIA.

Cooking

This is what I do in leisure... trying to invent that one

lip smacking snack in my kitchen!

And my newly acquired hobby... playing with cake shapes!

You will be able to see a few of them on my blog shortly.

And, now I have restarted blogging, this time I am serious about it

(I told you when I say I am serious, I am serious).

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And, if you want a proof for what I said here, you ought to read my blog regularly and also digest it, which I bet is a real man's job!
Good luck on your journey of exploring my blog.....

And thanks for traveling with me on my time line!

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The creatures from mars!

2010-11-22T10:27:00.000-08:00

This post was mentioned @Blogadda's contest on What men wants and what they had to say is at the end of this post.

[Disclaimer:

Everything that appears here is in view of a typical human male and typically a Indian male though you may get some tempering of West here and there. Anything that appears here is the outcome of one of the following... my observations, my experiences, may be my illusions... MEN, PLEASE... NOTHING PERSONAL OKAY. AND WOMEN PLEASE... BEAR WITH ME!]

I have been part of a human society since I was born(!) as a FEMALE and that society includes MALE as well. I have seen MEN as a father, as a friend, as a brother, as a teacher, as a husband, as a son, and the list continues. Not trying to be a stereotypical woman confronting men through my writing, I am just expressing my point of view. If I don't like 100 things about men there are 1000 things that I like about them.

Not traveling too much back in time, lets begin the life of a man as a teenager and end it at his end!

On the top list of what men want are:

The FOOD: Every women is aware of the phrase that 'the way to man's heart is through his stomach' and it really has great value. The fight between a man and woman begins over bad food and ends in love with good food!

The SEX : Only phrase that can explain the importance of sex in a man's life is that 'it is the fourth fundamental requirement next to food, shelter and clothing'!

And the SILENCE: Women please, this is on the top list of what women needs to know about men! Talk only when your man wants you to, talk on the topic of your man's choice, talk the right amount, talk in the right attitude and talk in the right volume. If you are not sure then the best bet is please be on MUTE! If you don't follow these then be sure of the fact that he is just hearing you and not actually listening!

TIP: If its that urgent and some butterflies are flying in your stomach, keep your lips sealed...talk to yourself.

The ONE's that are the wants for sure in man's life!

ONE book he has read- the KAMASUTRA.

ONE thing he has played- A PRANK ON A GIRL.

ONE drink he has tasted- ALCOHOL.

ONE that was irresistible- A DRAG OF A CIGARETTE.

ONE moment he wished he captured- GLANCE OF HIS FAVORITE FEMALE TEACHER.

ONE incidence he experienced- CRUSH ON A GIRL.

ONE film he watched- A BLUE FILM.

ONE conversation he hated- ASKING MONEY TO HIS FATHER.

ONE repent-able incident- FIGHTING WITH HIS FRIEND(GUY).

ONE secrete craving- TO HAVE THE HOTTEST GIRLFRIEND IN THE COLLEGE.

ONE item he has borrowed- A TIE(may be socks) FROM A FRIEND FOR THAT FIRST INTERVIEW.

ONE nice thing he has done- BOUGHT A GIFT FOR HIS MOTHER ON HIS FIRST SALARY.

ONE thing that is always flying in his mind- SEX.

ONE lady he wishes to marry- SOFT, PRETTY, YOUNG, HOMELY AND V_ RG _ N LADY!

ONE word that is on tip of the tongue- F_ _ K MAN!

ONE goal in career- EARNING MORE THAN EVER!

ONE craze- AUTOMOBILE!

ONE love- SPORTZ!

ONE female he loves the most- DAUGHTER (next is wife/mother?).

ONE wish to GOD- BLESS ME A SON!

ONE gift they wish for- IMPORTED BOTTLE (?!?!)

ONE phrase to his wife- CAN WE TALK LATER!

ONE universal reply to wife- Hummm...........

ONE favorite channel on TV- NEWZ!

ONE hot topic of dicussion with guy friends- FINANCE!

ONE advice to the son- MAKE YOUR CAREER OR FORGET MY MONEY!

ONE instinct- EYES ARE MAGNET AND ATTRACT TOWARDS FEMALE!
ONE important topic of gossip among guys- THE LIKES ANS DISLIKES ABOUT GIRLS!
ONE MYSTERY FOR MAN- WOMEN?????????

Did you ladies out there thought men are far away from emotional pool...think again...the only difference being...women drown in the emotional pool but men can swim out of the same pool! And how about tears in there eyes...if hadn't it been a social taboo...they too sometimes hurt at heart! And that 'no men don't gossip'... they too do that but the topic is about boss and girls!

All in all, they want inspiration and support, they want power and money, they want sports and news on TV, they want car and gal in it, they want respect and feel manly, they want lady secretary but never lady boss, and one thing they always want is sex...on and off the screen!

Please Please Please Please Please..... men and women, the following is on the lighter note, skip this part if you intend to bombard my comment box with objections!

It is said that women are cats and men are dogs, and why is that, here it goes.....

Dogs are basic creatures, dogs get along easier with other dogs, and don't mind sharing bones at times, dogs follow cats (M --> F), dogs love to defend their homes, and are incredibly loyal and protective of whoever gives them food and water and shelter. And they hate being tied down, dogs chase cars like it's their addiction, they are playful daredevils, and love to get their paws dirty, dogs are clumsy and messy.

And for cats... I don't see the relevance of it under 'The creatures from mars'!

One thing that I found was both MEN and WOMEN have some hormones in common and only the ratio of the two makes them think more like one of the two. Haven't we seen a more emotional, soft spoken and tender heart man and then a very strong, stubborn, loud spoken iron woman! Its all the hormones...okay lets not further dig a graveyard here since there is always google to do that! The only point is be it a man or a women they think everything relative to the relations, don't you agree?

One advice:

"Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea." -- Robert Heinlein

One word in ear with women- Can you believe when men say they forgot or say they don't remember some important incidents from past? I don't, they just don't want to address them!

Blogadda on this post: She also describes why only three things matter most to men –

Pinky on the other hand says women are cats and will do as they please & men and dogs have to get used to the idea. She also describes why only three things matter most to men – Food, Sex & Silence. If I were Pinky, I would make it Food, Sex & Sex. Why start a word with ‘S’ and not end up writing ‘Sex’?

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With 3G I live life that I dream off!

2010-11-01T12:20:00.000-07:00

Ting-Tong Ting-Tong! Oh, who's on the door, I am feeling sleepy to death and please I don't want to get alive at this moment... please go away! Ting-Tong Ting-Tong Ting-Tong! Oh boy, please... Ting-Tong... okay stop it am coming. Who was that, I see no body here and what's this?

Me: Oh honey, can you please help me bring this monster in!

Hubby: What?

Me: There is a huge box wrapped in the D's and O's and C's and M's kinda colourful gift pack!

Hubby: Please try and manage to get it in sweetie...

Me: It's really impossible... I wonder if there is a HULK in it!

Hubby: Okay I will be there...

While it squeezed and drained out all the left over energy of two starving bodies in the early morning by the time the gift was brought inside the house, I was wondering if it will take our lives to unwrap the box! Half way through the process of unwrapping the huge monster, we both were drowned in the ocean of sweat! We then decided to have our breakfast and then continue the process of unwrapping the box which was looking like a maze of boxes inside the boxes with eye flashing colors of gift wrappers on every box, the more we opened the boxes the more we found them again inside. Finally I found a tiny little box inside which, I found a cutey who I felt was a foetus inside the womb of the monster that we finally succeeded in opening!

Look at this awesome new hot lady! She weighs nothing, so slim; looks like the zero figure queen of the bollywood, hummm... so smooth... just can't take my hands off her? Wow, the color and the features! My eyes no more obey my orders! Suddenly I heard a sweet voice, are you not happy to see me? To my shock, she spoke to me!

She: Hey, I am your new friend...

Me: Hi. Am sorry but I already have a friend just like you!

She: I bet she is not all that faithful as I am, she cannot be as fast as I am,

she is not as best as I can be and...

Me: Hey, hold on... you know nothing about her...

She: and you know nothing about me!

Me: Is it, so why don't you introduce yourself and tell me how you are better than her?

She: Listen...

My name is 3G Smart-phone and I can be your trust of life! You can count on me on all your thick and thin days and use me the way you like!

I am with you for FUN and EXCITEMENT: Use me for sending and receiving videos twice as fast as your old companion, watch clips of TV shows on demand, rock on music that you always craved for! To add to this, now its time for your favorite indulge am your new gaming console.

I am with YOU and your LOVED ones alike: I give you a never before experience of talking to your loved ones via video conferencing and you will never ever say the phrase 'I miss you' to your dear ones! And this is not all, download huge files and pictures of higher quality and enjoy the experience that your friends and family want you to!

I am with you when it comes to the right for the INFORMATION: Busy on news hours, don't worry I will provide you all the news you want and that being on your demand! God forbid! If you get lost, I am always there for you and guide you by showing you the routes to your destination. And I can get you traffic updates based on your phone's location- now that's a real life saver come rush hour!

I am your TECHNOLOGY GURU: I basically turn your cell phone into a mini computer! Most important of all, 3g i.e. me makes it very easy usage by maximizing multi tasking, which means you can surf the net while you talk on phone. I enhance laptop performance by providing you mobile access even when you are nowhere near a Wi-Fi hot spot, because you can turn me(3G Smartphone) into a Wireless Modem, isn't that cool!

And now you name it and you get it? Search for restaurants, pubs, gas stations..... near you. You don't have to wear a snow proof jacket just by predicting snow fall and sweat in sun proving your intuitions wrong because am there to help you on live weather forecast. And tell me do you want to hear more?

Do everything above and that being risk free of security on internet. And you know.....Ting-Tong Ting-Tong... Who is that? And saying this I opened my eyes only to discover that the Ting-Tong was real this time! So there is somebody on the door for real? OMG, then what was that before, a dream? A dream of third generation mobile, it means I am so deeply attached to 3G that it has now made a home in my subconscious mind because of the insecurity and fear that I have been haunted off from past couple of months!

I have been in a constant fear since I got the news from my husband that soon we will be going to India for good. I have been using my 3G cell in USA for so many months now that I just cannot imagine a life without it. I was worried of how abouts after I go back to India. 3G has helped me be one among the US citizens enabling me to catch the fast life in the developed world! I feel the life is twice as fast with 3G as it was earlier and now I can hope to continue my life in the same pace back home. Thank you guys at TATA, for making my dream come true and I have really got the best gift ever on a Diwali, soon 3G concept is being introduced in India by TATA DOCOMO and which means I will no more miss my 3G life even after I am back home! Though BSNL has already introduced 3G, who does not want choices in life? I miss you and soon will be joining you...my home sweet home.

With 3G I can DO the NEW and I live life that I dream off! LIFE is a struggle and man has to juggle but with 3G its not a struggle to juggle!

This post is in reference to '3G LIFE CONTEST' by TATA DOCOMO on IndiBlogger.

Two faces of life- the GOOD and the BAD!

2010-10-26T11:18:00.000-07:00

Dear Son.

The Sun rises in the east is your first lesson, the sun sets in the west is your second lesson, I am your mother is your third lesson and my husband is your father is your fourth lesson, then comes your sixth and then the seventh and then so on and so forth! You have just turned one and you have already started getting lessons at home, the lessons on standing on your own feet, lessons on walking your way to me, lessons on talking, a few more lessons on the do s and don't s.....

When the first ray of sun falls on my face in the morning and when I open my eyes the first glimpse I get to see is your face and I thank God everyday for such a wonderful gift of my life- Oh dear, look at you, you are such a sweet heart, so innocent, wanting to be cuddled, you are sleeping tight holding me in your tiny arms just like the sun in the morning trying to hold and cover the sky!

As I got up today morning thinking of the upcoming Diwali, the first thing that I thought off is I must make use of this wonderful gift and thank God in the true sense for having chosen me for being the mother of such a wonderful baby. Gifts are always preserved and used for the best purpose and not let it go a waste by misusing or neglecting it! Diwali is such an auspicious day and I thought what else would be a better gift for my son from me on his second Diwali than giving him his first lesson on Samskara! I know you will not be able to understand whatever I am going to tell you but its never too early or too late to start doing GOOD things!

Son,

Humans are conditioned from their birth that

being GOOD is not BAD and being BAD is not GOOD!

As soon as a baby is born, a mother is born too! No woman is thought the essence of motherhood as every woman is born with the instincts of being a mother! MOTHER who is said to be the first teacher or the Guru gives no literacy to her baby but teaches something that is far more important than that for a healthy life, the SAMSKARA! Let me explain what is SAMSKARA to you first. SAMSKARA are the impressions stored in the mind that form the basis of our beliefs, attitudes and personality or the habitual reaction formed by one's past. Son, as you have just started walking on your own feet, I want you to walk your way of life with dignity by choosing the paths of values to your success. I may or may not accompany you through out your life but the SAMSKARA will always be their for your guidance.

Every mother wants to be a GOOD mother and tries to give GOOD values to her young one hoping to make her baby's life a GOOD and worthy life. She believes in what she is teaching her baby and she believes that she is teaching GOOD! Mother here I am speaking about is not just confined to humans alone, a mother is a mother- be it a Tiger, a Deer, an insect or a Bird, a Demon or a God! Every single species has a set of deeds defined to carry out during their life time.

For example, the mother tiger teaches her cubs to hunt to get there food because she believes it is GOOD for her cubs to do that without which they will not survive. But this GOOD lesson becomes BAD for the victim, but tigers are born to do what they do! A mother initiates and teaches her young one to carry out these tasks according to her belief and which she thinks is GOOD for her baby to do. What is GOOD is in her belief, the GOOD is different from species to species and from individual to individual in the same species.

Son, the GOOD and the BAD are the two faces of life, as you begin your journey of life, you will realize how BAD becomes an integral part of your life and how the SAMSKARA will help you fight the BAD.

Son, here is your first story on
what is GOOD and BAD,?
why GOOD is good and BAD is bad?
how the GOOD wins over BAD?

The story am going to tell you in this letter forms the basis for why Diwali is celebrated. Diwali is the day of celebration because it is believed that on that day Lord Rama returned to his kingdom Ayodhya after conquering Lanka. Kaikeyi , step mother of Rama lost her soul to greed and wanted her son Bharata to assume the throne of Ayodhya. Dashrath, father of Rama and Bharata was bound by the promise given to Kaikeyi and hence asked Lord Rama to go to the wild forests for fourteen long years. In the forest Ravana, the king of Lanka, abducted Rama's queen Seeta. With the help of Lord Hanumana Rama found Seeta in the kingdom of Ravana at Lanka. Lord Rama prepared a large army of monkeys and bears and invaded Lanka. Ravana was defeated. Vibhishan the brother of Ravana had joined Lord Rama in the battle. After defeating Ravana, Lord Rama returned to Ayodhya, his kingdom after fourteen long years. And this day is celebrated till date as Diwali, an auspicious day of victory of GOOD over BAD and the return of Lord Rama to his kingdom.

Son, the basis of SAMSKARA is understanding the seven sins:

PRIDE.
COVETOUSNESS -- greed.
LUST.
ANGER.
GLUTTONY.
ENVY.
SLOTH.

For every individual, the word GOOD brings in different definitions, and what is GOOD for one may be BAD for the other. But, son, the GOOD brings in the true meaning when you successfully understand these seven deadly sins! Remember, this letter is in the interest of you though you may not be able to understand it now as a innocent toddler, but this is my gift for you on this Diwali. And my last line in this letter for you son is that, as you grow wise, discover what you are born for and do what you are supposed to, but always remember GOOD wins over BAD!

May God bless you dear.

Love,

Your mother.

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The story of my picture on my mobile...

2010-10-04T08:52:00.000-07:00

Hey its been ages that we had last met, I wonder how you look like now as a mom! This was what I found in my inbox of Facebook last week from one of my primary school friends who found me on the social networking site. I had almost forgotten about her existence on earth, could you believe its been twelve long years since I last met her and that was before I changed my high school! Reading her name on the messages list made me the happiest gal at that moment and I really thanked Facebook at that point of time for bringing us together once again.

Both of us were so eager to look at each others photos that I spontaneously grabbed my mobile Alcatel OneTouch Net phone out of my hand bag and clicked my latest picture and sent the MMS to my friend and guess what she did the same, after all we both were known for such insanity during our childhood! Thank Goodness this 2mega pixel camera was handy to take a latest photograph immediately as I was in my aunts place then and had no other recent picture to send her. And I was once again in love with my DOCOMO PHONE. Being a typical Indian homemaker and above that being a typical woman and following the typical gal habit i.e chating for hours on phone, we started on how we have changed so much over a period of time! Recollecting that golden decade of my life, my schooldays.....

School days, oh why did I grow up so early God, I was literally drowned into those golden days of my life! Waking up early in the morning and wasting that precious time of reading while sitting in front of the books but planning for the day's pranks and plays in the school, suddenly hearing to that call of mom and coming out of that day dream, making mom run behind me and putting my things into my bag and oh my Gosh but still I always left my home work book at home? Walking to school just a few streets away like a tom boy on the road talking to all those whom I found, those two pony tails on my head tightly tied with ribbons and I always admired those collage gals and cursed my school rules, saying hi to everybody at the class room and giggling with friends on my way to prayer room and at the end of the day heading back to home thinking of the home work I had to finish and mommy yelling at my condition so dirty clothes and so dirty me jumping all the way to my room and hearing to mom's mantra 'you are now in high school, you know you are grown up now'! Wow, its again my day dream and I am now a mom who will be telling my son the same in future. And the endless conversation on ONE TOUCH NET not only started with past but also went on to cover our present and our future and it was on and on.....

This post is part of the IndiBlogger contest on Indivine's

The Share Life Blogger Contest! under the topic Phone photography: ‘Phono-graphy’

In association with Tata DOCOMO OneTouch Net Phone.

Sassy smart phone!

2010-10-04T06:56:00.000-07:00

In today's world even being street smart proves to be insufficient at times and similarly a smart phone fails to prove itself smart as the users needs and requirements goes fictitiously crazy? Sky is the limit for today's gadgets users but as always the limit is reached by some or the other technology Guru and what feels impossible now is brought to life tomorrow!

Off-late I as a mobile user have felt the need for some of the features a mobile could provide me and I so wished my desire to get these three things in my mobile becomes reality in near future? As I start describing these wishful three features I also want to convey the message of why do I feel the need for these.....

I as a homemaker and mother of a toddler boy some times have hard time finding my mobile at home either because I get too much involved with my son misplacing the mobile while trying to cope with my son during his emergency indulgence in risky activities or because my son misplaces it trying to make a toy out of my mobile. Now, every time I try finding my mobile out of toy dungeon or my grocery shopping it takes at-least a part of my day's activities. If I have another mobile (my hubby's) then its easy to find it by giving a call and searching at the site of tunes.

Instead of this wouldn't it be nice to hear the tunes by clapping your hands! When I clap or make any sound for that matter, if I can hear some tune I should be able to locate my mobile. And this method I call it as MOBILE FINDER!

The other day when I was out on streets near my home one of my friends called me on my cell and we had a chat for a while and then I hanged off saying am outside and will soon call her back. Once I reached home I called her again and as I talked to her I got the message from her that she was close to my home and all most on the same street where I was out for shopping and that she was planning to visit me but when I said I was out she just dropped the idea? Oh man, I felt so bad for missing such a chance to meet her which otherwise is not possible since she lives so far away from my place.

I instantly felt if my mobile could in any manner locate the friends around me in so and so diameter and prompted me showing the information about a friend who was close by, then I would have met her and may be brought her home as well! And this method I call it as FRIEND FINDER!

As we all know what traveling is like and how tedious the journey can get, and we all at some point of time thought oh how easy it could be if their was no necessity to pack such huge bags starting from clothes to stationary, makeup to toiletries, laptops to so many other gadgets and well how can we forget mobile and its accessories! Last time when I traveled to Texas to my aunt's place unfortunately I forgot to pack in my mobile charger and once the battery was drained I had to live without my cell till I returned home!

Though fictitious I thought it was a cool idea if my mobile was getting charged by itself whenever it found some changing source or power near by and this being done in wireless mode! Isn't this one of the next generation mobile device or the perfect smartphone with a BUILT-IN WIRELESS MOBILE CHARGER?

Alcatel OneTouch Net phone is I guess is one such phone which could comeout with these features and make my life smooth, easy and sassy!

This post is part of the IndiBlogger contest on Indivine's

The Share Life Blogger Contest! under the topic The feature I wish my smart phone had!

In association with Tata DOCOMO OneTouch Net Phone.

Egg curry

2010-09-17T17:27:00.000-07:00

Serves 2

Ingredients:

Eggs 4 Boiled and deshelled

Onion 1 medium

Tomatoes 2 medium

Garlic 3 cloves

Ginger 1 inch piece

Cashew nuts 5 optional

Chilli powder to taste

Salt to taste

Corrionder/Cilantro to garnish

Oil 2 tbsp

Cumin seeds 1/4 tsp

Corrionder Powder 1/2 tsp

Cumin Powder 1/2 tsp

Fresh coconut 1 tsp grated

Method:

1. Cook chopped onion, chopped tomatoes, cashew nuts, minced ginger and

minced garlic in water till tender.

2. After cooling, blend coconut along with the cooked ingredients into a fine

paste.

3. In a thick bottom pan or non-stick pan, heat oil and splutter cumin seeds.

4. Add the blended paste and fry till the oil separates while string.

5. Add corrionder powder, cumin powder, salt, sugar and chilli powder and

saute for 2 mins.

6. Turn off the gas and add boiled eggs cut in length and garnish with cilantro.

Serving suggestions:

1. Best served with Indian breads like roti, naan, kulcha etc

2. Can also be served with rice.

3. Can be served with bread in the form of sandwich.

4. Also can be served with Dosa.

Grass is greener on the other side!

2010-09-13T08:30:00.000-07:00

The mother nature has blessed so much on this piece of land that the grass is looking so beautiful, so fresh and green, and the chlorophyll is screaming and turning heads making its true presence felt! My eyes just can't stop admiring it and wants to capture more and more of its glory and sink in all the essence of its beauty soothing my innate desire of longing for the same splendid possession. But when my mind awakens I realize the grass is on the other side of the fence! And what about the grass I am standing on, its not all that I crave for? I want my grass to look as green as the grass on the other side!

Its the human nature to lust for more than what he deserves and no God can ever satisfy a human being as he gets more greedy after each and every step of possession and achievement. The more he gets, the more he wants! Not only that he wants more but also he wants something that the other person has, no matter how useful is the thing its always like when he has it then why not me?

How many of us has an YES answer to at least 5 of these questions? (its for you to test and not to show to the world, try to be honest)

Go to a restaurant and order for a heaven costing you a million which you can afford and yet peep on others plate at a table next to you and swallow your watery mouth?
How many of 'oh so honest' husbands secretly wished the next door beauty would have been your wife?
And the beauties out there wished if you would look like that one and only Hollywood heroine?
When you have all that money to dump into the garbage(!) how many of you tried your hand and went under knife to show up your new look to the world? Or atleast wised you could get renovated like a building in the name of remake!
How many of you wished if your child was much more intelligent than what he is, and you could ask him to conquer and rule the world?
How many of you thought if you could time travel and change incidents in past so that you would not face this in present?
And if you have a baby girl, you so much wised if you had a boy, and if you had a boy then you always wanted a girl?
I always wanted to be a girl, why am I a boy(?) I can always change my sex?
As a kid, always wanted the toy in the hands of our siblings and friends though the toy in our hand was the best in the world?
Sitting in the Mercedes Benz and still admiring that Wow what a bike outside the window?
And...............

I have to stop at some point or else the list will grow like a viral infection and start eating my blog! I have to force myself and give a full-stop otherwise the commas will never end on the list of desires man kind have!

In the urge of getting more out of life, we always forget to enjoy what life has already given us. Being wishful and aiming for heights is essential for sustenance and uplifting of life but when comparison rules the desire to grow, the life in the true sense starts descending! When the grass looks greener on the other side its just an illusion and you never know the grass you are standing on might be looking greener from the other side!

Long live humanity!

2010-08-27T15:51:00.000-07:00

Disclaimer: Take this article seriously at your own risk. The author is not responsible for your stress due to this article and further for producing more free radicals in your body due to the stress... and therefore resulting in one more extra wrinkle on your face!!! (Are you smiling, now that's better.....)

A blog post about 'a technology that you wish existed, or improvements to a technology', this sounds interesting but the more interesting part of it is, it doesn't matter how crazy your idea is! Here is the one part of the topic which actually made me even think of writing a few lines about technology. Its almost four years since I last gave my exams and its now three and a half years now that I even bothered to open a book and read after I resigned my job as a computer lecturer (this is just a chance for me to remember that I know computers and I was once associated to science!...so please bare with these lines?) Here is a come back post of mine with a sincere effort to relate myself to science and technology while I try and support facts with my fiction, and yes, you probably guessed it right- this is a science fiction (its no less than a fiction for me!) based on theories!

Now considering the literate meaning of theory, it says-

an ideal or hypothetical set of facts, principles, or circumstances —often used in the phrase in theory

or abstract thought : speculation

or a belief, policy, or procedure proposed or followed as the basis of action

Thus, as the theories form the bases for facts, here I go with the Whys and Hows part of my fiction hoping it to become reality in the near future! Now who ever has quoted 'its life in your years that matter and not the years in your life'- must have had a secret desire of living a long life with life in his life! As a common human being nobody on this earth would ask for short life unless he is a real yogi (do we find them in today's world?) or depressed insane man attempting for suicide in the quest to get rid of life. We all at some point of time might have gone through a phase of life when we think of our death, our old age or about why the death at all? For some its the word death which haunts all the time, for others its the old age thoughts that bother and for some of them its just the wrinkles on their face ( remember hot at 60+ bolly queen Rekha!) which is no less than a nightmare! All in all what we think off is the aging process, and if you think this as 'O so girlish' then think again, its just the matter of expression, men are real artists in the way they hide tears and worries about their own looks and age.

Coming to the real part, how do we grow old?

Its all science, the science of chemistry and the science of physiology and the theory of free radicals developed on the concepts based on these! Here is a little information associated with this.

Chemistry: is the science of matter and the changes it undergoes being concerned with the composition, behavior, structure, and properties of matter, as well as the changes it undergoes during chemical reactions (for me its just the action and reactions going on in my brain! Just hated this subject during my college days and the dilemma is that am digging into it even without any exams!).

Physiology: is the science of the functioning of living systems. It is a subcategory of biology. In physiology, the scientific method is applied to determine how organisms, organ systems, organs, cells and biomolecules carry out the chemical or physical function that they have in a living system.

The free-radical theory of aging states that organisms age because cells accumulate free radical which results in damage over time. A free radical is any atom or molecule that has a single unpaired electron in an outer shell.

Antioxidants: are reducing agents, and limit oxidative damage to biological structures by passivating free radicals.

Simply putting these together in the layman's language, the aging process according to me is:

The free radicals produced due to the chemistry in the Physiology of a living body are the root cause for aging and this can be treated using antioxidants (this is the benefit of blogging, you can come up with your own definitions!). You are not at all confused, are you? So, this being the theory, the next part is my idea!

The crazy idea or the technology I wised that existed or come into existence (and that before I decompose!) is:

A instrument that would readily oxidize or passivize all the free radicals in the body even if it means adding this as a task to our list of daily routine like one amongst bathing, eating, brushing etc...(you engineer guys out there, wanna bet! if only you consider it seriously???)

Put your-self in the machine and add some anti-oxidant solution and rinse? And grow young like a baby!

Its the age of computers and software, so hoping somebody could really come up with a software were in the body is virtually oxidized for neutralizing free radicals which shows results on actual body! The Matrix and the Star wars types you see!!! (This is the height of imagination, what say? And though my hubby is a software engineer I cannot really discuss this idea with him, can I?)

Stopping the free-radicals in the virtual world?

And if this fiction becomes reality as in so many other examples, then God save Mother Earth!

And here is my confession, you can see parts of articles of these links here:

Freedom is not so free!

2010-08-25T07:39:00.000-07:00

White, the symbol of purity, awakens my senses and breaks

the state of inertia setting my soul free for a moment

to experience the purity and the glory of the universe...

....which otherwise is drowning deep into the unknown, dark,

mysterious and unpleasant abyss!

Cigarettes, a symbol of thrill and a sense of freedom in euphoria,
for the addict.....

.....is actually the burning lungs, a sense of subjection in dysphoria!

While I enjoy and take pride trying to capture the moment of my freedom to 'cage and watch' the majestic Tiger.....

.....'captivation' is what it means to the tiger, and me as a human is responsible for its confinement treating it as a specimen!

What means freedom to me should not mean captivity, confinement, imprisonment, incarceration, limitation, servitude, slavery, communism, subjection, subordination or suppression to others. And if I misuse my freedom I am the one going to suffer.

While freedom is good, the real essence of it lies in its own limits! The bottom line is- freedom is nothing but an essential evil, best enjoyed in real need!

In reference to the BLOGADDA'S contest 'FRAMES OF FREEDOM'

this post titled 'FREEDOM IS NOT SO FREE' is been composed and shared here

as one of the entries for the contest.

The pictures above are taken either in New Jersey or in 'SIX FLAGS' SAFARI

near Newyork and I have every rights to share these photos.

Quadrants of- 'the TIME ORGANIZATION, the LIFE'! Part III

2010-08-13T10:42:00.000-07:00

Hey their! Good morning... its 11:25 am and I am here in front of my hubby's laptop hoping to complete this letter addressed to 'MYSELF' after procrastinating for a while now! I say this because I realized the urgency for a well kept clock in my mind and not just a clock on the wall! I have seriously damaged my hubby's routine today by waking up an hour late than usual and realized my Mr husband at home is also a Mr employee at bound-by-the-time company and is on the verge of missing a meeting where he is also supposed to give a presentation! My time and my sense of clock is not only associated with my family but also with the reputation of so many others who are directly or indirectly associated with my family and therefore with me. Here is an example, can you read the picture? And, I understand how I can impact others inversely by not keeping up with time and this can happen all because of me???

I might have asked this question at-least a 100 times to myself- How can somebody else tell others about managing time when each one of us are so different from others and the type and level of things we do vary to an extent that they can form north and south poles of the globe???

Then when I asked the same question 101th time, this was the answer I found for myself- Tricks and techniques are the pillars which are more or less the same and how one uses these pillars according to their lifestyle to build up time is unique! This I realized when I came across the name Stephen Covey and read what he has to tell in his book First things first.

First things first please! That is not what I am saying but a well written book by Stephen Covey mainly focuses on the advantages of keeping up time dividing the to do tasks according to the importance and the level of urgency of the individual tasks. In this book the author asks to divide the tasks into four quadrants or form a matrix.

I am a good copy cat and here is what I have reproduced from the book:

-In his 'URGENCY ADDICTION' chapter Stephen says

Anything less than a conscious commitment to the important

is a unconscious commitment to the unimportant.

This single phrase is sufficient to explain the need to stick to the important tasks first.The important things are then classified into urgent and not urgent hence forming the four quadrants.

Not digging into the quadrants much let me quickly take a look and analyze what it means to me. The four quadrants that form are:

Important and Urgent
Important and Not Urgent
Not Important and Urgent
Not Important and Not Urgent

Ok and my work begins now, I need to divide my tasks into four parts : Important, Not Important, Urgent and Not Urgent. Once I do that I can keep a track of my activities and plan things ahead. For my kind of tasks I need to update these four quadrants every month and may need to revise on a weekly bases and may not do it daily until and unless anything that I come across unexpected! After all I am bound by human inability to unpredict the future and what lies ahead every single day, though I try and plan my tasks putting my life into four quadrants of time!

Hope this letter helps me out and will be able to manage or keep track of my time and my life.....

Since my point of view is not to discuss the book here anybody who is interested in the actual book can follow this link: First things First, by Stephen Covey

Preparing Palak paneer made easy (Spinach and cottage cheese)

2010-08-05T08:48:00.000-07:00

A quick and easy way of preparing Palak paneer, this saves your time and please your taste buds.

Palak paneer, a dish that delights every Indian and now has taken foreigners as hostage! Spinach being the main ingredient for the gravy of the dish, is not only healthy but also tastes divine. Cottage cheese just adds to the richness of the dish making your taste buds sweat making your mouth juicy!

Quick tips:

Cook the dish uncovered all the time to retain the fresh green colour.
Cooking spinach (palak) and onion in boilinkg water for 2 mins will make it easy to blend saving time.

Serves 4-5

Ingredients:

-Spinach(palak) 1 Bunch

-Cottage cheese (paneer) Cut into one inch cubes

-Green chilli 3-4 or to taste

-Ginger and garlic paste 1 tsp (or 1 inch cube size ginger and 2 garlic pods)

-Tomato 1 chopped

-Onion 1 chopped

-Salt To taste

-Oil 2 tbsp

-Cumin seed/Jeera 1/2 tsp

-Cream 2 tbsp (optional)

Method:

1) Clean and rinse spinach.

2) Bring sufficient water to boil and add spinach and chopped onion. Cook for

2 mins. Drain the water. Allow it to cool for few mins before you grind

(blend).

3) In the blender add ginger and garlic paste (or chopped ginger and garlic),

green chillies, tomatoes and the cooked spinach and onion. Blend the

mixture to fine paste.

4) In a thick pan (non-stick is ideal) heat oil and splutter cumin seed, add the

paste and cook stiring occasionally till the oil separates.

5) Mean time in another pan heat a little oil and fry cottage cheese for few

mins till slightly golden (do not over fry).

6) Add cream(optaional), salt and fried cheese to the gravy and simmer for 2

mins.

Serving suggestions:

Best served with Indian bread (Roti, naan, Chapati etc).

Can be served in the form of Sandwich.

Can be served with rice as a side dish.

How did you serve it? Share with others here with your innovative serving suggestions.

Quadrants of- 'the TIME ORGANIZATION, the LIFE'! Part II

2010-08-03T13:24:00.000-07:00

Hey, am back after that long tea break...remember...the break after the PART I of Quadrants of- 'the TIME ORGANIZATION, the LIFE'!....!!! During tea time net surfing, I came across some interesting facts about blogging or diary_ing(?) and internet which I thought would make a wonderful picture and hence I have added it here on top. As once truly said 'Picture speaks thousand words', it will not only keep reminding me of the real purpose and my abilities as a blogger, but also make me laugh out my hidden disabilities. Before I move on let me make my heart light:

(warning: please do not read next few lines if you don't want to laugh!)

Man A: So what do you do?

Man B: I write blogs!

Man A: What do you do otherwise?

Man B: I read them.....

Man A: Do you think you cure poverty and hunger in Africa by blogging alone?

Man B: No way, the poor and hungry Africans should blog about it too.....

Dog A to Dog B: I had my own blog for a while, but I decided to go back to just pointless incessant barking.....

Man to waiter: Am switching everything over to internet-

my phone, my bills, my TV, my human contacts.....

Wife: Are you coming to bed?

Husband: I can't, this is important!

Wife: What?

Husband: Someone is wrong on internet?

Not to mention, even I do read blogs otherwise and that is how I got these humorous lines! And I laugh out loud to clear my throat and dust out my mind to free myself off the tensions of ironing clothes, washing vessels, vacuuming and oh ya to clean my hard disk which is dumped with loads of photos. While my son is asleep, let me try and put my dream and my life in the four quadrants of time! Wondering why did I get those lines above about blogging? Yes, here it is, 'TO WRITE THE BLOG' which is my perfect size of dream...

BLOG- not technically speaking for me is a:

reflection of myself
channel to put out my train of thoughts
a way to improve my writing skills
kind of exam which will push me to read and research more before I write
new age trainer to boost my confidence
a platform to showcase myself.

Wait a minute, let me make it clear and tame my brain to keep myself away from the things that eat up my time! You see, as teenage boys wander about doing everything that they are not supposed to do but studying, my mind freaks out as soon as I sit down to write a post on this blog and starts wandering about and end up surfing for things that I am not supposed to, like, finding lots and lots of widgets (unwanted), themes (which the blog already has one), opening social sites (twitter and facebook) and end up tweeting and making friends(!), start reading other blogs (and instantly warning myself not to steal anything from them?), and the list of madness continues... and suddenly when I realize, that I was here to write a post, my son wakes up!

This is what I love about self counseling, you spontaneously know what is wrong and where you need to draw a line to set things right. For goodness sake I have realized where my time is being drained! As am trying to blend some fruits in my mind, I must always make sure to filter the unwanted and uncrushable leftovers to make a tasty, healthy and digestible juice! Its not only important to know what you want in your life but it is also important to know (in fact very important) what you do not want.

Here again, I break my promise of completing the part II...see you guys with my next part of Quadrants of- 'the TIME ORGANIZATION, the LIFE'! Hope you please bear with me for my inability to finish it.

Looking forward for 'The first birthday'

2010-07-29T04:10:00.000-07:00

Come Friday the 30th of July and its going to be a big day. Me a year ago on the same day was in the labor ward trying to push out my baby! It was 8:30 pm on Wednesday the 29th of July 2009, that me and my husband decided to go to the hospital as per my doctor's advice to get admitted for the delivery. The due date being on 30 July, there was no sign of my baby wanting to come out of its very comfortable world of my womb. Having a very high threshold of tolerating labor pain I hardly was suffering. It was then that we decided to go for C-section and there came out our baby making that sweet crying sound which was no less than a melodious tune of an emotional song for me. Suddenly I heard somebody shout its a baby boy. But, I could hardly enjoy that once in a life time moment as I was too drowsy due the tranquilizer given to me. After three hours when I was shifted to the room I had forgotten that I had a son and asked my husband whether it was boy or a girl which was less of a surprise and more of a shock to my husband I think. Days later I realized that I already had got the news of a boy baby on the operation table.

Its one year now and I did not realize how days just passed and we are now going to celebrate our son's first birthday and me one year of my motherhood. But, I wish I were in my motherland, in my home sweet home and could enjoy the day to the fullest with my dear ones, family and friends. Being 1000's of miles away in another country having to play the roles of guest and host alone is really not a welcome situation for me. But, never mind I have decided to make it a memorable day. Though the guest list is: the birthday boy, his mama and his papa, the party will be rocking!

And now as am heading for that pre-party preparation, I feel guilty of not being able to post the PART II of Quadrants of- 'the TIME ORGANIZATION, the LIFE'!, but am really too excited about making that lovely first birthday cake. While the part II is half done and don't want to share it here without actually being able to research completely on the topic and mess it up in hurry! I know, no excuse is good for my inability to post it on time but some sins committed are forgivable when it comes to your loved ones!

Quadrants of- 'the TIME ORGANIZATION, the LIFE'! Part I

2010-07-22T14:16:00.000-07:00

THE QUADRANTS OF LIFE, a letter to myself.

What is life?

Life, is a relative term and characteristic feature that can be explained in comparison with object.

Life, is characterized by self-sustaining processes.

Life, is differentiated by biological processes with those (objects) that do not posses such processes, either because they have died or they lack these functions.

What is death? Its the termination of the self-sustaining processes or the biological functions that characterize life. Termination? Does that mean death is the present of something that was once life! Past and present, what do they indicate? Are they trying to tell life is governed by time? So, it means that the beginning of life starts approaching the end of it. Thus, life is also relative to time! When there is start and end to the life, it has a certain time span, and here I hear the TIC-TOCK! How much more time do I have? This is one question certainly is the biggest of all things bothering the mankind(me?) and is also one question that is really difficult to find the answer for! Any kind of study that promises to tell my future and the life span one can enjoy is still a debate and I really would not take it at this point of time in this letter.

The past, the present and the future are the tenses that make me tense! Though I have heard of these thoughtful phrases a trillion times - 'past is past that cannot be changed and the future is one that you have never seen', my mind refuses to stop thinking about the past and starts wondering if I could ever change things that I never wanted in my life and also refuses to stop plan my future. In the mean time, I have ended up doing nothing and loosing a part of my life in the true sense.

As I add days to my age, I know am also subtracting days out of my life. I did not know how I was born and probably I will not know how I died (after my death). Between the birth and death I surely want to live at-least a few days when I feel the life of mine was a worth while living. Me just being another women will make my life add to the population, just being another daughter will make my life a pleasure to my parents, just being another sister will make my life my sister's childhood playful, just being another wife will make my life my husbands home, and by just being another mother will make my life my son's life. Here now, I realize the meaning of-'its not the years in your life that counts but the life in your years'!

Its easy to dream big but to live big is what it really matters. Though I cannot start liking bitter gourd(which I hate to death!) only because my neighbor likes it and because it is really-really good for health. And also that I cannot start having 10 black forest cakes at a time because my another neighbor can do it and because I love it to death! I know both of them are not that great for my well being. So my big dream can only be a size, that is pleasure to just fill my stomach but the size is too big if it can make my stomach get upset!

My big dream, now whats that? Is my dream some kind of a career? Career, am I dreaming of money? Money, is that some kind of job? Job, should I be away from home? Home, oh my gosh! Should I really need to compromise with it? Compromise, is there a need to give up the kind of attention I now pay to my son and to my husband and to the house? Back to square one, is it possible for me to manage my dream and my relations and my home and my life?

Apart from trying to figure out and achieve my dream I also need to prioritize my other activities and hence group them and manage them to a healthy life. I can smell something is fishy here! How am I going to do it all? Where is the time? Do I need to become a juggling mom? Its always said that there is no question without a right answer, we only need to find it! Is the answer for this a word called manage? Manage what, the priorities, the dream, the relations, the home and the activities? Wait I get it, the answer must surely be the so called 'TIME MANAGEMENT'!

That must be it! But as I understand if I start managing time will the time start managing my life? Should I always listen to the CLOCK when it says TIC-TOCK? I think there are other things to do in life than look at the clock! What are those and how much should I add them in my life? Here they come to my mind, and they are all what I really must have. Why? Because,

Its good to live life with fun and pleasure, without which life is miserable.

Its good to live life with leisure, without which life is fatigue.

Its good to live life with indulgence, without which life is stale.

Its good to live life with love, without which life is terror.

Its good to live life with......

And the list goes on and on, but nothing should be a hindrance to the purpose of life. It takes many ingredients for a delicious dish, the good for health as well as the bad for health once, but the right proportion is the key to the taste and health. Cooking and having food is a necessary evil, but garnishing the dish and arranging the table once in a while to see that surprise and pleasure of the loved once is the real happiness a cook gets. Doing it all the time is not only time (life!) consuming but also it just becomes routine for everybody. The work, the home, the relations, the emotions,.....are all the good and the bad ingredients to live but are necessary evils for life. The fun, the pleasure, the leisure, the indulgence, the love...... are all some of the things with which life can be garnished to make it beautiful.

I think I now know more about my own life and what it should be like? I can now really put them up in the time scale but also not try to manage time but to be aware of time and be more organized as its truly said- 'a minute spent to organize will save you an hour'.

As am heading towards the completion of a part of this letter,

I feel a great sense of motivation,

I realize the fact that, there is nothing like self-motivation and self help,

I understand the fact that, I am responsible for my life,

I can shape it the way I want it, and

I must live my present only then will I be able to do things I want.

The BEE says...

Though I am always known as a busy bee, I only gather honey in summer and enjoy it the whole winter!

Okay, this is enough of brain storming for today, I will give some brain exercise in the days to come and organize my life listening to the clock. And, should I name the task...its going to be PART II of realizing and organizing my life...as I say will be continued.....I am heading for a cup of tea to celebrate part I of self realization.

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2010-07-20T14:59:00.000-07:00

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Confession and pledge of the BEE...

2010-07-19T14:11:00.000-07:00

In the first post on this blog, I the BEE... CONFESSES that- the introduction about the blog referred as "The BEE says..." is not my construction of words but has been reproduced being inspired by the great quotes given to the world by some of the great personalities.

Having said that, I the BEE take a PLEDGE

that- in future you will only get to HAVE YOUR SHARE OF HONEY that is utmost pure and direct from my soul, and

that- if I do reproduce some HONEY in any instance you will always be referred to it.

Blog is still taking its baby steps.........

2010-04-18T09:27:00.000-07:00

This blog is still in beta stage..........................